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pt 1. Getting out of a toxic relationship

Not all relationships are meant to be; most of them are experiences to take with us throughout the rest of our lives. This is normal and appears in more than just intimate relationships. It’s not worth beating ourselves up for going through certain circumstances. All we can do is learn, accept, and redirect. In terms of getting ourselves out of intimate toxic relationships, we may consider accepting that we are in an uncomfortable situation. We may be bold enough to attempt to fix the problem by changing our self-image for our partner. However, this will only work if our partners are equally open-minded to creating a new self-image for themselves, thus creating a new relationship image. 

If we are less interested in our partner, it’s essential to recognize how this occurred, how long it’s been happening, and if it’s essentially worth staying around the toxicity. After recognizing this information, it is up to us to accept and redirect. Staying true to your commitment to leave a toxic relationship is essential to moving on positively. Despite great memories and exhausting arguments in our relationships, life continues for both parties. It’s better to realize we’ve entered the wrong door and leave than to stay miserable in a room that makes us claustrophobic. 

Negative thoughts will occur, and we will sometimes find ourselves having feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. Allow yourself to think truly. These are all feelings that a toxic relationship offers as well. Finding peace of mind for ourselves is a great start after getting out of a nauseating relationship. Finding the available resources to fill our time can go a long way while offering us a positive direction. 

Dedicating ourselves to our goals, ambitions, and peace of mind can be found in spending time outside, consistently reading positive motivation, and finding a positive outlet/mentor. Spending time alone is a very healthy habit when looked at in a positive sense. 

The time we spend in a toxic relationship will never be returned to us. It’s essential to forgive ourselves and our previous partners. Bad relationships and experiences do not define bad people. We often forget that we become what we think about. Thoughts of forgiveness and taking the experiences positively bring peace of mind. 

We’ve got to be so forgiving to both ourselves and our previous partners to the point where if we were to see them in public, we would only think good thoughts and even have a positive conversation. Bad experiences do not define bad people. Actions speak louder than words. 

pt 2. Appreciating your partner

For those in a relationship that fills them with joy, happiness, and satisfaction, it’s so important that you continue to build that relationship into the best that it can ultimately be. Prioritize your happiness and realize that being in this relationship can either contribute to or decrease the potency of overall happiness. Be loving to your partner, forgive them in situations, and allow both parties to fuse into one. 

It’s most important to pray with your partner at all times, not just when it’s convenient. Beautiful relationships can be built with the powers of God and the abilities he has given us from birth.